Miss you Asher

Today marks the sad day, one year ago, when Asher, my Godson, was taken from this world.  It was a tragic accident and no parent should ever have to go through the living Hell that my longest and best friend had to go through.  No parent should ever have to bury their child.

I was in training for my Iraq deployment when it happened and I found out through Facebook.  I knew I had to, but I dreaded the call.  What would I say?  I finally made the call and it was one of the hardest things I could do, to hear my friend, my brother, retell the story of his child's death. No matter how I found the tears cascaded down my face.

My little sister, God bless her, went in my place to the funeral.  It touched her too as she knew the family and she has a son just a few months younger than Asher.  It made her appreciate every minute she has had with her son.

"There's a man Ian never got to know - the man he was growing up to be. He's a good-looking, clear-eyed young fella, about 25. I can see him. He's the type of guy that men want to be around, because he has integrity, you know? He has character. You can't fake that. He's a guy women want to be around, too, because there's tenderness in him, respect, loyalty, and courage. And women respond to that. Makes him a terrific husband, this guy. I see him as a father. That's where he really shines. See, when he looks in his kid's eyes and that kid knows that his dad really sees him, he sees who he is. Then that child knows that he is an amazing person. He's quite a guy that I'll never get to meet. I wish I had."

 - What Dreams May Come, Eulogy for a Dead Son 

We miss you Asher!!